I felt like writing today. I’m bothered a bit because someone close to me is going through something I can’t prevent. In fact the more I try to help this situation, the more it’s likely to get worse. It looks like a huge bummer, and I’m sensing something heavy, happening with someone I love.

This is my private discovery that what I perceive as their problem, has also become mine, simply because I care so much about them I wanted to help them work through it. I share it with you, because I see how focusing on their problem, has also caused me to get sucked into that vortex of fear for a loved one.

I have actually become the same problem, as I paid attention to what my friend is dealing with.

This started with an observation that bad people are doing bad things…. and my thoughts are about what happens when we spend time pointing the finger.

It’s your world, what will you do with it?

Whatever “they out there,” are doing, has absolutely NOTHING to do with with our own individual expression of joy, love happiness, wealth, abundance, poverty, suffering, hate…. because all of these experiences we go through, are choices we make. We always have a choice to notice something first, and we always have a choice which emotion we’re going to attach to an event.

If there is a war and it makes you feel angry, no matter what actually happens, you’re still in control of your thoughts, and deciding to be angry. It works the same way with more positive events and feelings. When there is a catastrophic event that kills thousands or millions, empathy matters. But at what point does empathy become our personal drama, where we give in to creating more drama for ourselves, and attracting more negative events to pay attention to?

When a disaster happens, there is always an opportunity to do something positive to help the people or animals or earth that is suffering. But when the suffering about an event “over there, becomes a useless exercise in finger pointing, or the suffering over there becomes our own suffering… we are making their problem worse. I honestly think it’s better to do nothing, than to play the game of, look at how bad those people are. But that’s a very individual hurdle to get over. And it will always be a bit of a leap of faith.

As we continue to get worked up about any event, and how evil it is that more people aren’t getting excited or helping, we add to the problem. I say shut up and help, or quit complaining.

The thing that comes to mind, is watching someone who is being born, or who is dying. They spend absolutely NO TIME, doing anything except what is here and right now. A baby doesn’t blame a mother for the circumstances they’re born into. A dying person doesn’t look around the room when they’re dying and say, you can’t be here with me, or that bummer war over there must end before I can die.

Live like you were dying is exactly like that. The truth is, you are dying, sooner or later and it’s no bog frikkin hairy deal. But you’re also alive, and all the glory of being alive in this moment, is yours to love and embrace, when you turn your attention towards the things you LOVE.

Let go of everything you can’t control. And what is left, is REALLY FRIKKIN HAPPY stuff. Allow the perception of bad stuff, to exist instead of fighting against it. Resistance to negativity is only making it larger for you.

And of course those are words I know I constantly need to live, as well.

When we feel a lack of control over what “they out there,” are doing, we don’t need to feel “not good.” All we need to do is decide if that thing we are paying attention to, is helping us feel the way we want to feel. Some people need to experience hate, so they find things to feel hateful about.

I myself have struggled with an American election where I feel attracted to Obama, as someone I want to believe in. When the republicans base their election campaign around what is wrong with Obama, I want to squeeze some tea party necks. I’m not without my triggers either.

But I also KNOW deep in my heart, that chem trails, disease, poverty, war, or election results I don’t like, do not prevent me from enjoying exactly the fun-filled, joyous life of abundance that I want to live.

If I give in to hysteria, the media’s entertainment news, fear of death, fear of hate…. if I allow any of those things to dominate my thoughts, then I lose everything I have lived to learn.

There is only now… If I’m thinking about Dick Cheney and how many other monsters like him are ruining this planet, then my now is corrupted, not by them, but by my own thoughts. He does NOT have the power to control my mind, and no one but me ever will. I take 100% responsibility for my happiness, and my family as best I can. Any 80s , 0r 2010 Bilderbergs conspiracy theory…. whether it exists or not, only matters if I decide it does.

God didn’t put you or I here to solve anyone elses problems. And if you think God didn’t put you here, that’s fine. But if you want to be happy, solving ALL the world’s problems is not the road to happiness. I can guarantee that.?

The long and short of it, is that love can win every time. Every single time. But you need to be willing to embrace the love part of any situation or experience. When disaster happens, embrace the love you feel. IF you feel that love start shifting to helping people, then go do it. If you feel that love shifting to indignation towards the perpetrators of some dastardly deed, you’ve just become part of the problem.

We’re all part of this big living thing called earth. The cancers that this earth has, also bring about some pretty awesome changes. You just can’t cut out what you see as cancer, and expect the rest of the people in the world to agree. And the world doesn’t automatically become a better place if you take something away from it.

We become a more focused version of yourself, the very moment we decide to pay attention to something that makes us feel better. I don’t mean a better version of ourselves, because you’re already perfect in my mind. I mean we have improved our ability to attract what we want to experience. And it’s usually love, that we want to have more of.

What do you want more of, this very moment?

I bet you can’t find it on TV news.

Steve