You Can’t Have It All
You Can’t Have Your Cake and Eat it Too
Don’t Ask for Too Much
If You Got Everything You Want, You’d Never Be Happy
You Can’t Focus On Becoming Rich and Expect to Be Happy
blah blah blah

Which Crown suits me better? If someone could photo shop a turban and a court jester hat on my head, I’d love those too!

Sue and I have been taking a bit of flak lately about wanting to be millionaires, as if it’s an unworthy goal. Some people are suggesting that we all have limitations that we need to pay attention to them, and that we are somehow bound by them. We like to answer every email and blog or facebook comment, but I can see now that as we move up the ladder of visibility, it may become impossible to answer everything. Especially if we get stuck answering the same question… maybe people could answer this question for themselves, before they start giving people advice. hehehe

Do I sound perturbed? I’m not at all. In fact I feel more bulletproof than ever. A few people have told Sue and I that they really enjoy my writing “style” so I’ve made a decision to allow more of that to surface, without editing myself into a more socially acceptable kind of marketable positive message.

Manifesting changes in your life, is up to you, and NO ONE can tell you what is possible or especially what is IMPOSSIBLE.

Many people think their ideas and beliefs are so logical, that everyone around them should agree. Spiritual issues, financial issues, parenting issues, integrity issues… it’s like a lot of people believe there’s some sort of book where all the right answers are written. Some people think it’s the Bible… some think it’s the constitution.

BUT I KNOW THIS TO BE TRUE FOR ME…

There are no wrong answers. Every decision simply leads to another evaluation of the results of the decision, and then another decision to go further in the same direction or change directions.

I look at this “You Can’t Have It All,”concept in pretty much black and white. So my take on it may or may not be interesting to you. I have spent years wondering about the fairness of life… who gets to have what, who is left to rot by humanity. The whole gamut of thinking about the world’s inequities used to paralyze me with apathy. I mean if we can’t count on being alive and healthy, or if we can’t count on our kids outliving us, WHAT’S THE POINT? Yes I spent years pissed off at God, for the things God seems to allow…

We all know we could be crossing the street, and get hit by the next bus. Life could be over, life could change dramatically in an instant. My struggle with that concept, (is it worth the effort to become happy, because I could be dead within 5 seconds) was left behind, after a series of decisions I made in the last couple of years. Not one particular decision to change turned the page… the entire list of these is how I’ve turned my life around. I started losing my anger with life 10 years or so ago. Having kids forces a kind of growth you can never be prepared for. It starts the ball rolling… the do things for other people muscles get much stronger when you have kids. I think it’s unavoidable, but I only have my own experience to draw on.

One decision was to quit smoking cigarettes in Aug of 08.
Another decision was to quit hoping to get rich playing music waiting for someone to find me.
Another was to quit hoping that I would be magically saved from the addiction to my own apathy & anger.
Another was to completely abandon my previous career of writing and composing music.
Another big decision for me was to only use my real name on any forum or public media…
And the biggest decision I made about changing my life around, was to start making Youtube videos.
And another amazing (and frightening) decision I made was to leave our internet business in my wife’s capable hands.

I am NOT recommending anyone do what I have done. All decisions about changing your life, are up to you to figure out. You have to first realize you have something worth changing, and then you have to find the discipline to stick to the change. Each change or decision, makes us stronger and more able to face the next challenge.

So there are a couple of issues to consider.

1) What does having it all… mean to you? If it means having bird wings to fly with, gills to breathe underwater with and some kind of potion to become invisible… that could be difficult. If you want to be the richest person in the world, or worth 500 billion dollars, it could be difficult. Those are outside of you, you need to pull them towards you I guess. If having it all means, having the state of mind you need to feel GOOD, well that might be easier. That’s up to you tho. Some people take decades before they figure out how to be happy. I did.

2) Happy people around us, suffer horrible fates and become at peace with it. There’s a gold mine of self-discovery in that statement, when we decide to apply it to ourselves. In fact, when I read that statement on another forum, this whole blog post just started writing itself. I was crucial to me to understand that there are people suffering from starvation in the world, yet someof those same people, are able to be happy. How could that be? That was an amazing revelation for me… Some people are HAPPY, not matter what. And I WANT to be one of those.

After all, we all die… that sucks for a lot of people. But at some point, we all face our mortality and decide if we want to fear that or not. Me, I ain’t a skeert no mo a dyin.’ I haven’t done everything I still have left to do, not have I accumulated all the stuff that I want for myself and my family. But I have attained a peace of mind and bulletproof nature that I THOUGHT I COULD NEVER HAVE. I grew up thinking I would be a very unhappy person, all my life. Man have I ever changed that! I’m so happy, giddy wacky goofy… all of it.

I am happy with all aspects of my life (so now you KNOW you’ve met someone who is). I live very moment to moment, I have wonderful plans with my business partner, and my wife and kids are all doing fabulously. I have also risen above needing to worry about all the lousy things that have happened on this planet. I feel compassion, I still cry at both happy and sad things, but I’m not going to lose any sleep or hair over the things I have no control over.

Some days I think I want to wear a turban and speak slowly like this very cool guru, Moojiji but that’s not me. His message, is about love and that our thoughts are who we are. I love listening to him… but I’m a loud, brash, hockey playing, short & fat, bald, egotistical bully with a hairy back… yeah you know the type. And there’ still a few million dollars in escrow waiting for me to attract. And I promise you, I am 100% committed to every change that I feel a need to make. To me, this is perfection. The feeling of KNOWING that I can get (change) from point A to B. I don’t need to manifest every single thing I imagine. I only need to enjoy every moment.

This life thingy is AWESOME.

And here’s a video of Moojij. Before you watch it, imagine if there’s an audience & market for a bald white guy, wearing some kind of internet superhero/guru costume… saving people from their own addictions to negative thoughts. Now imagine my lovely wife elbowing me in the ribs really hard.

Steve